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Saturday, October 16, 2010
How did you move on from dancer to porn star? And do you find it difficult to deal with the stereotypes that are constant with both professions? I get offended when people make assumptions about dancers because they're insulting my friends.
Blame Nashville's strip club laws for moving from just dancing to doing other things. They made them so restrictive a few years back that it became quite pathetic.
The stereotype thing is frustrating, but I've gotten used to certain parts of it. Obviously there are trainwreck dancers, but there are trainwreck lawyers, doctors, teachers, and just about every other profession. The only difference seems to be that the doctors and lawyers and such hide most of their trainwreck-ness for after work, while some dancers decide to bring theirs along with them. The best/most successful/most beautiful/amazing dancer I have ever know is bat shit crazy when she's not at work, but she's the most refined/pleasant/elegant/entertaining girl on the planet when she straps on her heels.
Backwards stereotype ftw...
How/why did you become a dancer? I've asked a couple of dancers I've become good friends with (more than just a "regular" and they never seem to give me a straight answer.
I was super, super shy before I was a dancer. I'd never even been to a strip club before I went in to get a job. I actually went in to apply to be a waitress, but the manager told me I'd make more money as a dancer so I should try that instead. Somewhere between filling out that application and talking to a couple dancers, I was taken to the dressing room, loaned a pair of stripper shoes that I promptly fell out of, and tumbled on to the stage.
I'd never been so terrified in my life. I had no idea what to do, or how to do it, and it felt like the whole planet was watching me up there on that stage. For the most part the audition was a blur, I just remember getting off stage 10 minutes later, having nearly $30 bucks, and realizing how long I'd have to work at DQ or Chick-Fil-A to make that same $30 dollars.
I was scared shitless, so I packed my stuff, talked to the manager, and told him I'd decide if I could come back to try again within 48 hours. 48 hours later I worked my first full shift and never looked back. I got lucky, I had a 'stripper idol' that helped me learn along the way, and I'm still learning from her today. Without her I'd have probably not even lasted a month before getting fired.
I've only been to 4 clubs, and had wildly different experiences. Two of them didn't allow any touching, one was fully nude with touching (boobs and butt only) and my current club it seems to be up to the girls. How do you feel about customers and 2nd base
*Disclaimer* All the stuff I'm saying is how I feel about certain things, other dances may be the total opposite.
I have a major aversion to people touching me during dances. It messes up my 'flow' and I end up playing 'ninja stripper' for the whole song. I hate having to do it. The only thing worse is when people attempt to grab my hips & hold me in place when I'm sitting on their laps, people who attempt to put their tongues in my ear or lick me, or people that try and 'hump' during dances. It's just weird.
Speaking of people that have a hard time keeping their hands and/or tongues to themselves, I just remembered I've got a blog to write about one of those experiences.
Thanks for the answers. I always try to be a gentleman when I'm in a club, but sometimes the girls just aren't attractive to me, and, of course, the girls I'm usually interested in are always busy! Good to get an answer from a Pro. :)
You're welcome. I'd rather have people ask than go to clubs and act like asshats because they have no idea what they should do in certain situations.
(And as long as you don't tell a dancer you're not interested in that she's ugly/fat/old/whatever, you should be ok. Tact makes all the difference in the world, and if you're a dick to a girl most of the time we hear about it in the dressing room rather quickly, so playing nice goes a long way.)
Sometimes, it seems like the girls are sitting with customers, and other times, it's like they're sitting with friends. I've seen girls sit with the same guys for hours, without ever giving them dances. Is this normal, or do I just visit bad clubs?
There are guys I will sit with all night without doing a single dance. More often than not, that guy is paying me to sit there & talk to him, and paying me well. It probably looks like I'm just sitting on my ass talking to some random dude all night, but there is no way in hell I'm sitting anywhere very long just to do it.
Not all dancers work this way, but it's how things normally work for me.
Also, if I'm sitting at my table, and a dancer I'm not interested in sits down, how do I tell her I'm not interested without her getting angry. I've tried the "I'm not getting dances tonight" line, but it never seems to work.
It really depends on the girl. Normally I won't sit for more than a song or two without asking, and if they say they're not ready/they're not getting dances/they need another drink/etc., I tell them I've gotta get back to work, will check in on them later, and off I go.
If you're waiting on a certain girl, just say so. If it's a dancer that hasn't asked for a dance/you're not really 'feeling' her and she has just been sitting there for a while, the 'I need to run to the restroom/run outside to use my phone/go tip that random girl on stage' excuses are a non-dickish way to (hopefully) get her to move along.
What is good strip club etiquette? If I want a dance from a girl, but she's been sitting with another guy or other strippers, is it okay to approach and ask for a dance?
Not if she's with another guy! I've seen all kinds of problems take place because of a guy approaching a dancer when she was sitting with a customer. Wait until she's on stage, go up to tip her, and when you do let her know you'd like to get a dance from her, or ask one of the waitresses if she could let said dancer know you'd like a dance. (That version works best if you pay the waitress for doing so. Motivation, for real.) If she's sitting with other dancers and there are no customers in sight, go talk to her.
What's your favorite song(s) to dance to?
It goes between 'Come Undone' by Duran Duran, 'Prison Sex' by Tool, and 'Strangelove' by Depeche Mode.
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